I cannot believe it has actually been that long, since I have last put up a post. I am very sorry, if I haven´t been on track in these fast running times. Sometimes I guess you just have to slow things down or you do get to slow down just because life happens. But foremost I probably just have to get rid of my love for perfectionism. I simply should not expect writing long blog posts and always writing about the utterly important stuff.
Anyhow, lately I have been up to a lot of projects, sitting at my computer and hacking in several ideas for new companies and creative concepts for others. I have kept my time deciding on what I want to do next, listening to my heart and my what my gut is telling me. I have made a decision for now and cannot wait to share the news with you once I am ready and all set up.
Also I have been preparing my daughter´s birthday and as I haven´t shared the pictures from my son´s 1st birthday, I will add a post about his birthday shortly after. He turned one in February and our daughter turned 4 end of July.
As I love sewing I sewed all those little swords, costumes for the little fairies and Peter Pans. I also made the costume for my son, by using a green shirt and cutting it into leaves. The Peter Pan hats are made out of felt. I also got my own logo for the stuff I make - maybe one day I will open a little shop for party supply?!
A big thank you and shout out to my friend Yany, who took the pictures from the party, which I would like to share with you. If you live in the Germany and need lovely pictures for your wedding, birthday, from your family or portraits for yourself: she is your girl!
Check out her page: I SHOOT PEOPLE.
Besides planning my kids birthdays, I love seeing them grow up. I feel very privileged being able to spend that much time with them and seeing their every step in development. Our son is able to talk and walk and his sister started writing and reading. Time flies by so fast. I think our daughter has well adjusted to the fact she is a big sister now. She does get jealous once in a while but she will never put her anger towards her brother. She loves her brother dearly, although he is not always allowed to play with her things. We figured it was important that she does not always have to share her things, as we believe there are certain things that she has to be able to keep to and for herself in order for her individual development.
Our son has become a little boy and he is very independent. Both of them are able to play together now and also on their own. It has however been quite a challenge with both of them. As they are not that far apart age wise, both tend to have their tantrums. Zoës have become fewer but Jarle has just been starting. So there are times, both of them want different things and will scream until they achieve it. Fortunately these are only phases that come and go, but they are part of development.
Organizing myself, work and the kids around my husband´s schedule has been a challenge but I believe we have finally come to a good routine.
In my opinion a routine is everything for a child. When coordinate the time for the meals, playtime and bedtime at the same time everyday , the kids seem to be more balanced and they go to bed at a (more) reasonable time. When we recently had our vacation, the routine got a little out of hand and therefore bedtime for our big girl was not before 11 pm. Therefore we barely had any time left for us as a couple! Well, we still do miss out on a lot of time for US, but eventually we will get back to the point, where we will also be able to go out for dinner or to the cinema without our kids.
But enough of that. Below you can find the pictures from the preparations for the Fairy/ Peter Pan Birthday Party and the party itself.
I sew little swords for the "lost boys".
And made Peter Pan hats.
And I sew little Unicorns for the babies.
I got lovely tutus for the girls, as well as matching fairy wings.
I made a Peter Pan Costume for my son out of an old t-shirt and used green stockings and prepared fairy dust for the kids.
I made a crown.
And a rainbow cake.
Here are pictures from the party, taken by Yany. We had a troll parcour race, a treasure hunt, fairy houses and treasure boxes to paint and build a fairy garden, lovely food and drinks, a troll throwing game, magic bubbles and other games for the magic guests.
We had a lovely party and our kids were thrilled, so were the guests about the details.
As I always end my posts with a little musical goodie, I would like to share this tune with you. Since June I have been listening to a wonderful tune that suits my ears very well. I love listening to this song with my headphones on and watching my little ones sleep! I don´t like most of the tracks of this duo, but this track has it all in it for me. I love the break, the chorus and the classical parts of it. Musically it just warms my heart.
Life is on fast forward right now, time flies by and I cannot believe our boy is already 6 months old and our big girl just turned 3!
We gave a ballerina-themed party for Zoë and had a wonderful time in the garden, with home made lemonade, cupcakes, cake pops, chocolate coated marshmallows that look like tutus, spinach puff pastry and salads.
Here are some impressions of the food:
Besides that I also made the giveaways myself, that each kid could take home. I just used simple brown bags, stamps and sewed them together with little ballerina costumes for the girls and little ties for the boys.
For the girls I included a special beads bracelet, a bracelet that had each child´s name written in morse code.
I just wanted to make something special and to me it was easier to find something for the girls, so I took the effort and made them myself. Also I thought it would be nice for the kids to have their names on a bracelet, but in a secret message, so it would not be obvious to strangers.
Moreover I included a little book and some sweets into the goodie bags.
We had a couple of games for the kids, water games like water bombs, soap bubbles and duck fishing, a table were they could design and paint their own kaleidoscope or a crown, a can knock down game and a „design-your-own cupcake“ station.
Our daughter and her friends had a lot of fun and far too much sugar. It was so nice to see all those happy faces and it made me proud, that we had been the reason for it.
For the kindergarten I made a special cake for Zoë´s birthday also. It is called a „piñata cake“ and I gave it an pink ombre look. The special thing about a piñata cake is the hidden secret. I put pink Smarties in the middle of the cake and when it gets cut, the Smarties fall out of the cake. The kids were really surprised and loved the fact, that there were even more sweets for them to eat.
Creative work keeps my mind free, it is my personal meditation.
Due to my job as a manager and concert promoter, I have been reduced to the business side of my character so many times, that I sometimes tend to forget about my creative side. Having children helped me to become creative again. Even more than before.
And so many times I have already said to myself, I should open an online shop, like on etsy or dawanda, where people sell their self-made stuff. This idea is growing on me and one of the things I will start with are probably party supplies, the bracelets and some children´s clothing. But I will get to that some other time.
Talking of business, after the last post, I ordered my new business cards and they turned out to be really nice! I love the feel and look of both of them. I ordered at "Moo" and got both the square card, as well as the mini card. I can really recommend them and I also love their blog as they are posting about other start-ups or interesting companies. So, if you need new business cards, make sure to check them out. It would be greatly appreciated if you could use my recommendation code.
Next to music, my biggest passion is my kids. I am sure everyone can say that about their kids, but mine really are the most important things in my life! They bring me constant joy and occasionally worries, but in the end, I wouldn’t want to miss one single second.
My big girl is turning three this year and my son is just 3 months old. I think that´s the perfect age difference between them and hope they´ll able to really interact more and play with one another soon.
When I am asked, what it's like with two kids, my standard answer is: "it is challenging."
It really is challenging and I keep asking myself, why when I was a first time mom, did I feel exactly the same way?
First time mom
When I became a mother for the first time, my whole life changed. Before motherhood, my life was all about work - staying up late, sleeping in on the weekends if I did not have to work, etc. and then life changed A LOT! Today I rarely watch an episode of my favorite tv shows from the end to beginning - I tend to fall asleep after 5-10 minutes tops.
Flashback to three years ago... My life was all about: "when will I shower or will I even get to shower?"; "will I be able to have breakfast/lunch/dinner?"; "when can I get my make up done and will I ever look like a normal person again without food or baby spit-up/vomit stains?"
Let´s just say that after a while I got so relaxed about it, that I no longer cared what others thought, all I cared about was that the baby and I were happy.
In all honesty I was worried about a lot of things in the beginning. Having no experience with kids, I held a baby once, never changed a diaper, and never had to calm a baby down. I was simply inexperienced and insecure. Fortunately, I learned that a baby tells you exactly what it needs and when. And even if you are a bit overwhelmed at times (positively and negatively), you instinctually know how to handle the situation and your baby will be grateful for your love, care, and attention; so it will forgive your minor mistakes. What makes this period even more special, is that you grow with your child and with each experience and life challenge, you are both facing it together.
What to get and what not to
I think most parents get (buy, are gifted, or just acquire) too much stuff for their newborns. We probably did too. Most important of course, is clothing. Summer basics should consist of 6 long sleeved bodies, 4 short sleeved bodies, 1-2 light cardigans of some sort and a light pullover, 2-3 pairs of leggings or light pants, 2 pairs of leggings with feet, 3 pairs of socks, 1 pair of wool socks, 1 blanket, 2 pairs of rompers and 1 sleeping bag. Just bear in mind, that even though it´s Summer, it´s better to get clothing that you can layer, as it might get cold and babies need a little more warmth.
Another important “first” is a baby sling or stroller, though I would not recommend using a BabyBjörn or Manduca before the baby has reached 6 months of age.
Also worth considering is adequate diaper or clothing changing space and maybe a crib that you can attach right to your bed. The latter can be useful during the night to bring your baby into your bed for feeding, care and comfort with the benefits of sleeping close to the baby, but without the worries associated with co-sleeping.
For the moments in between feedings I would recommend getting a baby quilt, so you can have your baby lie next to you wherever you are. Having a music box is a plus and can be put on your belly during your pregnancy so the baby recognizes and can find comfort or joy in the melody later.
Other than the abovementioned items, your baby really doesn´t need much, except maybe a rattle or one of those wonderful “grip and play” Oballs by Rhino toys.
Mom of two children - new challenges
All of a sudden you can be confronted with funny or surreal situations such as both kids screaming, whining or crying at the same time, and these moments will make you want to bump your head against the wall.
If you are lucky, your firstborn child is in the middle of his/her defiance or rebellious phase. This will present you with the challenge of coping with an exaggeration of its kind. Our big girl´s defiance phase has grown exponentially since the little guy was born! In a flash you have a screaming and crying child next to you, who is overwhelmed by its own feelings and trying to understand what is going on. At least in this regard, our daughter is coping fine. Some days it is easier for me to stay calm than others, but at the end, it is a phase that will be over at some point. Right?!
When you have one child you have to establish some sort of schedule to give the child some consistency; this supports you in building up their self-esteem, and gives them the security of a reoccurring somewhat predictable, daily routine. This meant my husband and I making a conscious effort to have breakfast, lunch and dinner at almost the same time and trying to stay on the same schedule for activities, groceries or the like. We were never strict about it though, and let our princess decide for herself when she had to lie down for a nap or when she wanted to go to bed. We took her everywhere with us and she was fine with it.
But with two kids everything changes. The importance of a routine has become even more important than ever. Because if we don’t stick to it on a daily basis, the older child is at risk of being late for kindergarten.
I don´t know how others manage it, but I struggle in the mornings, getting the two of them, plus myself ready. Having one child means having a child that will also easily adapt to your schedule. Having two children basically means, you have to adjust your schedule to the children and be very strict about the routine. Sticking to this is good for the bigger child´s self esteem and sense of structure. Thankfully for us, we still manage to take both of them everywhere we go, whether it´s out to dinner, concerts or theater plays.
We were aware of the possibility that our daughter could feel dethroned by the new child, since our attention and focus would no longer be solely on her and that she might try to act out or misbehave to get it back. Within our circle of friends we have learned that sometimes this comes with the kind of behavior NO parent would approve of. And in such cases, one should be thankful if your child does not direct its rage and grief against the newborn.
Thankfully our big girl did not and seems to enjoy having another little person in the house.
I guess what I want to say is….it´s ok to feel overwhelmed and it is ok to feel overpowered; this is something I have to constantly remind myself. But every day, I am overjoyed to have two of the most wonderful human beings (besides my husband) around me everyday.
The next song has been around for quite some time now, but somehow it just fits here perfectly.
Trufflepig. Talentscout. Music Advisor. Booking Agent. Singer. Mother of Two. Wife. Artist. Trendsetter. Muse. Fashion Addict. Starry-eyed idealist. Hobby Psychologist. World Traveller.